The Quiet Confidence — Monthly Dialogue Meetings

You are warmly invited to a monthly dialogue — a gentle gathering appearing as the self-evident wholeness of what is, already whole and ever-present. These meetings offer a space for open conversation around what is sometimes described as non-duality, without framing it as a teaching, path, or practice.

There is nothing to prepare, understand, or believe. No prior knowledge is needed. Following a short introduction, conversation and questions unfold naturally. Questions may arise. Responses may arise. Silence may arise.

The conversation points uncompromisingly to the self-evident wholeness of what is already and always present — not as a thing, but as an unknowable no-thing (neither something nor nothing) that is boundlessly everything appearing and disappearing as innumerable forms. This wholeness can seem to be overlooked through the appearance of a psycho-somatic sense of separateness, which interprets experience in subject–object terms.

This apparent separation has no independent reality. There is nothing wrong with its appearance. It does not obscure, damage, or divide what is, but is simply one of the ways in which what is may seem to appear. Like everything else that appears and disappears — including thoughts, feelings, sensations, and the sense of separateness itself — it arises without cause and passes without purpose or meaning.

When experience is interpreted in subject–object terms, wholeness can appear to have been lost. Seeking may then arise as an attempt to recover that wholeness within experience. This seeking can take many forms, including very subtle ones such as inquiry, awareness, or attempts to recognise what is. These movements are not wrong or mistaken, but they can inadvertently reinforce the sense that something essential is missing.

The message of these meetings is an uncompromising pointing to what is, alongside an equally uncompromising description of the seeking process itself, including its most subtle and well-intentioned expressions. Seeking is not judged or opposed, but simply described for what it is. These meetings are not offered as part of any agenda to bring about change, clarity, or awakening, but as a space in which what is already the case may be spoken about openly, without compromise.

This description does not deny or bypass the relative appearance of the human mind–body. Considerations of psychological, emotional, and physical health and wellbeing may still arise naturally at this level — not as a way toward wholeness, but as part of the ordinary functioning of what is appearing.

There is no path to follow, nothing to attain, and no separate self that needs to awaken. What is being described is not an experience to have, a state to enter, or a way of seeing to adopt, but the ordinary, immediate actuality of what is, exactly as it is.

These meetings last 90 minutes and are offered on a donation basis. Contributions are welcome but not required.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this a teaching or a practice?
No. Nothing is being taught and no practice is being offered. This is a description of what is, not a method for changing experience or achieving clarity.

Do I need to have had an awakening or insight to attend?
No. There is no requirement, qualification, or expectation. Nothing is missing and nothing needs to happen.

Will this help me awaken or become more aware?
These meetings are not offered to bring about awakening, awareness, or any particular outcome. Any sense of seeking or hoping for change is included in the conversation, not used as a means to something else.

Is this meditation, inquiry, or self-investigation?
No. While meditation, inquiry, or awareness practices may be discussed descriptively, they are not suggested, guided, or encouraged as methods.

What if confusion, frustration, or disappointment arises?
That is not a problem and does not indicate misunderstanding or failure. Confusion, frustration, clarity, interest, or resistance are all simply part of what appears.

Does this mean psychological or physical suffering does not matter?
No. The relative appearance of the human mind–body, including health and wellbeing, is not denied or dismissed. Care, support, and practical responses may still arise naturally, without being framed as steps toward wholeness.

Is seeking wrong?
No. Seeking is not criticised or opposed. It is simply described. Even the most subtle forms of seeking are included, without judgement.

What actually happens in the meeting?
After a brief introduction, conversation unfolds naturally. Questions may arise. Responses may arise. Silence may arise. Nothing is directed toward a particular outcome.

What if nothing makes sense?
That is not an obstacle. Making sense is not required.

What if this resonates deeply?
That is not an achievement. Resonance does not confer understanding or insight.

What if this feels confronting?
That can happen. Nothing here is designed to reassure or challenge deliberately. The description simply does not accommodate an agenda of improvement.

So what is the point?
There is no point in the usual sense. Nothing is being offered to get somewhere else. This is simply a space where what is already the case can be spoken about openly, without compromise.